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Easing Separation Anxiety When Starting Montessori: A Guide for Parents

Starting school is a significant milestone for both children and parents, and at Western Heights Montessori Academy, we understand the challenges that come with this transition—particularly separation anxiety. It’s natural for young children to feel anxious about being away from their parents, especially when beginning a new routine. However, with the right approach, you can help your child build independence and confidence, making the transition smoother for everyone involved.

Understanding Separation Anxiety

Separation anxiety is a normal part of child development and usually manifests when children are around 8-12 months old. It can reappear or intensify during significant changes, such as starting school. At Western Heights Montessori Academy, we aim to make this transition as comfortable as possible, focusing on building a child’s independence and establishing a consistent routine.

Building Independence

One of the core principles of Montessori education is fostering independence. Encouraging your child to do things on their own, even simple tasks like choosing their clothes or packing their backpack, can significantly reduce anxiety. The more involved they are in their daily routine, the more confident they’ll feel about attending school.

Here are some strategies to help your child build independence:

  1. Involve Them in Decisions: Let your child choose their uniform or outfit the night before school. Giving them a sense of control can help reduce anxiety.
  2. Encourage Self-Help Skills: Teach your child to dress themselves, wash their hands, and tidy up their belongings. These skills empower children, making them feel more capable and less dependent on adults.
  3. Practice Separation: Gradually increase the time your child spends away from you before the school year begins. Start with short periods and slowly extend them. This practice can help them get used to being apart.

Establishing a Routine

Children thrive on routine. Knowing what to expect each day can alleviate much of the anxiety associated with new experiences. A structured morning routine helps set a positive tone for the day and can significantly ease the transition into the Montessori environment.

Here’s how you can establish a successful routine:

  1. Consistent Bedtime and Wake-up Time: Ensure your child gets enough sleep by setting a consistent bedtime. Waking up at the same time each morning also helps regulate their internal clock, making mornings smoother.
  2. Structured Morning Routine: Start the day with a predictable routine that includes time for breakfast, getting dressed, and a few minutes of quiet time or reading. This can make the transition from home to school more seamless.
  3. Arrive on Time: Punctuality is crucial in Montessori education. Arriving on time allows your child to participate fully in the school’s activities and reduces the stress of feeling rushed or missing out.
  4. Create a Goodbye Ritual: Develop a special goodbye ritual, whether it’s a hug, a high-five, or a special phrase. This can reassure your child and give them something to look forward to at drop-off.

Additional Resources

For more information on separation anxiety and how to support your child during this transition, consider the following resources:

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